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Still in the works…

Another update on the tying up of loose ends process that is our chaos right now :):

  • A guest book, white please. Thanks mom!
  • Pen for guest book, white.
  • Beads to go in the bottom of vases, also white please.
  • Mints/other white candy to go inside of our favor boxes. Gluten-free if possible. Thanks mom!
  • Tulle fabric for use as a garland, white.
  • Arch or other sort of backdrop.
  • Wedding photography services. Thanks Sister Katich!
  • Music services.
  • Hair and makeup services for Ashley. Thanks Brother Christensen!
  • Cupcakes, enough for the party with one batch gluten-free  (in lieu of wedding cake). Thanks mom!
  • Cupcake tower to display the cupcakes. Thanks mom!
  • Christmas trees (can we borrow your fake tree for the day?)
  • Dry cleaning– Ashley wants to clean the second-hand dress before the big day.
  • Dress alterations– the neckline is too low as-is. The skirt is full and made of tulle, the body is corseted. Ashley wants to add some white, gathered tulle to the top of the too low neckline. If you’ve seen Renaissance Fair dresses which have a corseted dress with a full skirt and a ruffle on the neckline… that’s what she’s going for.
  • Suit alterations– Randy’s suit top fits him, but the pants are too big and too long.

It’s almost here… OMG!

So, our big day is fast approaching and we’re not ready!!! Mom has really stepped up and helped us out with some of the things on our list including a guest book, cupcakes and a way to display the cupcakes. She’s also collecting contributions towards a romantic get-away for us in lieu of wedding presents. We already have most of the things couples receive as wedding presents, including dishes, silverware and small appliances. Combining our silverware collections has actually forced us to start a second silverware drawer since Randy’s possessions arrived from Texas this fall. But as bountiful we are in silverware, we’re as barren in the ability to procure ourselves a short stay at a local hotel and a couple’s massage that we think would make a nice honeymoon. Thanks mom for helping us plan our big day and for ensuring we have a little bit of away time together to start the next phase of our lives off together.

To help us on this home-stretch of Ring Ceremony and Wedding Reception planning, we’ve set up an RSVP service. If you’re planning to attend, please let us know. We don’t want to make too many or too few cupcakes! The RSVP address is: http://andrews.eventbrite.com/.

Sister Clark emailed me back and let me know that she has received an amazing Christmas present from her hubby… a trip to Costa Rica!!  Good for her, not so good for us. We’re back to needing a pianist. Let me know if you or someone you know can help us out with that!

Time is really flying by. 🙂 It’s almost here… OMG!



What we have so far…

This is an update of the list of needed things I posted awhile back:

  • A guest book, white please. Thanks mom!
  • Pen for guest book, white.
  • Beads to go in the bottom of vases, also white please.
  • Mints/other white candy to go inside of our favor boxes. Gluten-free if possible. Thanks mom!
  • Tulle fabric for use as a garland, white.
  • Arch or other sort of backdrop.
  • Wedding photography services. Thanks Sister Katich!
  • Music services. Thanks Sister Clark!
  • Hair and makeup services for Ashley. Thanks Brother Christensen!
  • Cupcakes, enough for the party with one batch gluten-free  (in lieu of wedding cake).
  • Cupcake tower to display the cupcakes.
  • Christmas trees (can we borrow your fake tree for the day?)
  • Dry cleaning– Ashley wants to clean the second-hand dress before the big day.
  • Dress alterations– the neckline is too low as-is. The skirt is full and made of tulle, the body is corseted. Ashley wants to add some white, gathered tulle to the top of the too low neckline. If you’ve seen Renaissance Fair dresses which have a corseted dress with a full skirt and a ruffle on the neckline… that’s what she’s going for.
  • Suit alterations– Randy’s suit top fits him, but the pants are too big and too long.

We’re getting there! Thanks everyone for being willing to pitch in. It’s much appreciated.


Building… Again

Oy!

Last night, the stake calendar people who received the ward building request by accident of a glitch in the form, emailed a rejection notice for me on the event with the words “this has been communicated to the scheduler” on the bottom. I knew a scheduling meeting had occurred last week. I was waiting to hear back from those who attended that meeting if I had received the room or not for our Ring Ceremony. I emailed back the guy from whom the denial email came asking if that meant that I couldn’t use the room. And then I started crying. I’m so frustrated with all of this.

I tearfully showed Randy the email and he decided to call back the stake scheduling guy to figure out what was going on. The man told Randy that the guy who sent the email who isn’t in charge of scheduling the room, told him that we had the room. I’m guessing then that they had the meeting and put us in the calendar. A call back to that effect instead of a cryptic denial letter would have been nice.

When Randy first joined the church, he started a blog where he and several coauthors could write about the experiences of moving from being an Evangelical Christian to being a Mormon Christian. All of the people he wrote the blog with were new converts like himself and he is the only active church member out of the group remaining. They’ve all gone inactive.

He’s had a lot of rough experiences, including this run around about getting married in the Temple and using the gym for our Ring Ceremony. With drama like this going on, it’s no wonder his friends haven’t stayed active in the church. There are other churches out there who will let us get married in a manner that will be more welcoming to our nonmember friends and families and who won’t make life hell for us as we try to schedule a simple Ring Ceremony.

I’m not going inactive, but this mess has definitely left me with the thought that church members can be quite hurtful to new converts and to each other and that we are to blame for our own poor new convert retention rate. Perhaps members wouldn’t be so prone to “church vacations,” as we jokingly call periods of inactivity, if we weren’t such jerks to each other.


So much drama

On Sunday, I still hadn’t heard back (like he promised) or got a hold of the ward building scheduler, so I decided to take matters into my own hands. I didn’t want to wait until the last minute and not have a room for our Ring Ceremony. I put notices on the gym doors that the gym would be in use on January 15th and to call me if they had any questions. No one had any questions, but the Stake President saw the notices. He was one of the people the glitched building scheduling online form emailed instead of emailing the correct person, so he has been in the loop since the beginning of how hard of a time I was having in scheduling this.

He got in touch with the stake building scheduler and told him to take down my notes and get my room scheduled. Now the stake is meeting with him and all of the ward schedulers to figure out why people are having such a hard time getting things scheduled. The stake scheduler called me to tell me how upset the Stake President was and that now there were going to be meetings. He told me he took down my signs. And that’s where the fun began.

The stake scheduler ended up being someone I knew from the ward I first lived in when my ex and I moved here from Arkansas. I sang in the choir with him and his family. His wife was my visiting teacher and when I was pregnant, she took me to prenatal appointments because she knew I couldn’t drive. That was much easier than taking the bus! But the relationship between his family and mine wasn’t all sunshine and roses.

My ex and I couldn’t make an assigned chapel cleaning day. We arranged for substitutes, but they didn’t show. The now-stake-scheduler-guy and the then-counselor-in-the-bishopric was upset about that. He and my ex had a quite irreverent argument in the chapel the following Sunday before church service in front of everyone.

This man was in the Bishopric with the Bishop who refused to allow me to go to the temple to receive my endowment. Church policy states that worthy women may attend the temple without their husbands if their husbands give permission. I was worthy, my then-husband wanted me to go. He said no. I disagreed with his judgment, making them all very uncomfortable.

So between not getting a long with my ex and between not understanding why I disagreed with the leadership of the Bishopric, this guy really didn’t get along with me and mine. I had no problem with him. I realize that my ex is really good at angering people and that even people in church leadership positions aren’t immune to losing their temper sometimes. I’ve since gone to the temple. I’m over any drama from that time in my life and from that ward. But I guess the stake scheduler isn’t over it. The entire conversation was at best uncomfortable and at worst rude.

I was polite. I said please and thank you. I didn’t push his buttons or bring up the past. I did the right thing.

Finally, we hung up the phone and I called Randy crying. That man hurt my feelings to the point of tears and it’s stressing me out trying to get the room scheduled. So, yah. What’s next in the building scheduling fiasco? Bring it! LOL. Ugh.


Update

So… I still haven’t gotten anywhere with scheduling the chapel. I understand December being a busy time, but I talked to Brother Gardner of the Stake and he said he had the same issue when trying to schedule his daughter’s Ring Ceremony. In my opinion, with an ongoing slacking-in-calling-duty issues, this couple should be released. I printed up notes and put them on all of the gym doors and the bulletin boards for each of the wards that the gym is occupado for January 15th and to call me if there are any questions. I hope this works.

I also emailed some people in the ward whom I believe could help me with some of the things I need for the big day. I emailed Sister Katich, because she took some awesome pictures of our engagement and asked her if she would take pictures of our Ring Ceremony too. I emailed Sister Clark and asked her if she’d play the piano. I also emailed Brother Christensen and asked him if he could help with my hair. I am so not girlie enough to be able to do my own hair… I can’t even braid. Hopefully these people can help us out. We’re on a tight budget, as everyone is right now in this economy, and hiring professional photography, music and hair services just isn’t doable for us.

We still need cupcakes and Christmas trees. I think I’m going to pass out a sign-up sheet in Relief Society for those. If several people can make small batches of cupcakes, it wouldn’t be too stressful for them and it would really help me out. Borrowing their fake trees for a day shouldn’t be an issue. By mid-January, most people are ready to take them down or already have them down anyway.

Where is the time going??? There is so much left to do.

P.S. Bacon, Skittles and Raisenettes taste really good together.


Scheduling the Chapel

I’ve been trying to schedule the LDS Golconda Chapel for our Ring Ceremony and Reception on January 15th, 2011, but I’ve not been having much success. I tried to fill out the online scheduling form like a good girl, but the form is glitched. Although they’ve released the new lds.org, not all of its features are working properly. The form went to the calendar guys. They ignored it since it wasn’t for them. I emailed the scheduling people, again through lds.org, and that was glitched too. It went to the calendar people again. This time though, they called me back and let me know what was happening.

Before they got ahold of me though, I called the building scheduler at home. He answered and seemed a tad put out by me telling him how I’ve been waiting for my online request to be approved. In hind-sight, he was probably put out because he never received it. He asked me the date and I told him, January 15, 2011. He told me that they’re not scheduling for 2011 yet. I told him how important it was that this be scheduled anyway because I can’t plan for family and friends to come down, I can’t do any invitations, etc. etc. unless I have a location FIRST. That got him moving. haha. He became willing to take down my information and will try to schedule it. He will call me back and let me know if he succeeds.

He’d better succeed. 😛

The calendar guy who called me told me of all the trouble he’s been going through getting one of his kids’ wedding scheduled. He received he same warm welcome on the phone from the building scheduler as I did. But eventually, her reception was scheduled for February, so if the building crew can make it happen for them, hopefully they can make it happen for me.


Scheduling the Sealing

On the advice of Sue, I called the temple back. I half-expected to be laughed at again, but the person who answered the phone this time around was very kind albeit a bit nervous about using the computer and a tad dyslexic to boot. We’re scheduled to be sealed on January 11, 2011 at 7 p.m. We have the larger sealing room which can hold up to 40 people. So if I have more Mormon friends, family and ward members with temple recommends interested in attending than I think I do, we’ll have plenty of room. Randy and I have to be there at 5:45 p.m. and our Short Veil Ceremony will be at 6:15 p.m. I have no idea when spectators should arrive. Before 7 p.m., I guess.

I have that day off of work, but Randy will be coming straight from work, unless he can save up enough leave time to take a half-day off. It should prove to be a hectic, interesting and fun evening.


Wedding Plans: Help

A lot of people have been asking me “What can I do to help?” There are several items left to be purchased for the wedding and a lot of services that we still need. As you all know, Randy and I are on a very limited budget. Any items you want to pick up for us would be much appreciated. If you have services or talents to donate or give us a discount on like baking, sewing, photography, etc. also great. Here’s a list of stuff and services that we know we need:

  • A guest book, white please.
  • Pen for guest book, white.
  • Beads to go in the bottom of vases, also white please.
  • Mints/other white candy to go inside of our favor boxes. Gluten-free if possible.
  • Tulle fabric for use as a garland, white.
  • Arch or other sort of backdrop.
  • Wedding photography services.
  • Music services.
  • Hair and makeup services for Ashley.
  • Cupcakes, enough for the party with one batch gluten-free  (in lieu of wedding cake).
  • Cupcake tower to display the cupcakes.
  • Christmas trees (can we borrow your fake tree for the day?)
  • Dry cleaning– Ashley wants to clean the second-hand dress before the big day.
  • Dress alterations– the neckline is too low as-is. The skirt is full and made of tulle, the body is corseted. Ashley wants to add some white, gathered tulle to the top of the too low neckline. If you’ve seen Renaissance Fair dresses which have a corseted dress with a full skirt and a ruffle on the neckline… that’s what she’s going for.
  • Suit alterations– Randy’s suit top fits him, but the pants are too big and too long.

Am I forgetting anything?

If you’re on a tight budget too and can’t kick in for goods or services, don’t feel bad. We need your manual labor! haha. We’ll need help with set up and take down on January 15th, including picking up and dropping off borrowed Christmas trees, decorating tables, taking out the trash, etc. This help will be instrumental in pulling this off as we will both be working full-time and Ashley will be taking half-time college classes (one course being Statistics–eek) and starting a new and challenging church calling. Any muscle you can put in would go a long way towards keeping us sane.


Wedding Plans: The Theme

Randy and I are getting married in January. Cold, snowy January. Some brides would consider that a bad month to get married in and would wait for the warmer days of spring and summer. But I am quite happy about our date. Not only is it easy to remember, 1/11/11, it is also easy to decorate for. Our theme for the ring ceremony and wedding reception is “Winter Wonderland.”

Here’s everything we have so far:

  • 12′ bell tissue garland
  • Just married bubbles
  • 20 Circular tulles for the tables
  • 2 packages of fake snow
  • Baby’s breath
  • White roses
  • White beaded garland
  • Flameless votive candles
  • Silver heart favor boxes
  • White Christmas lights
  • 6 Small pre-lit white Christmas trees
  • 11 Plain white table cloths
  • 2 Satin white table cloths
  • 12 Square mirrors
  • 6 Vases

I plan to have six large, round tables placed around the room with two white table cloths on each of them, criss-crossing. Two tables will have a white and satin cloth instead of two white cloths. One will be for Randy, myself and our family and the other will be for our cupcake wedding cake display. The bell and beaded garland will garnish this table, along with some of the tulle and white Christmas lights.

The table centerpieces will be bead-filled vases with roses and baby’s breath, surrounded by flameless votives, bubbles and the silver heart favor boxes. They will sit on tulle covered mirrors. Sprinkled around the table centerpieces will be the fake snow.

I plan to decorate across the stage with strings of white Christmas lights draped in white tulle as a garland. Encompassing the tables, scattered about will be dozens of white Christmas light covered Christmas trees.