Category Archives: Wedding plans

Getting My Hair Done

On Wednesday, I went over to see Doug Christensen of downtown Reno’s Ethan Douglas Salon. I told him he could do whatever he wanted to my hair. I keep my hair in a pony tail. That’s the only style I know. Sometimes I braid the pony tail, sometimes I flip the ponytail in a loop, sometimes I wear a headband when my hair is in the ponytail. That’s all of the hairstyle variety I’ve got. I wanted to get married with my hair not in a ponytail, but beyond that, I left it up to Doug. This is what he came up with: he highlighted my hair and cut it to be in layers instead of one plain length, then he curled it. I got Randy off of World of Warcraft long enough to take two pictures of my new hair.

Getting it done was an interesting experience. Doug mixed some colors with a bowl and a whisk like he was making pancakes. Then, he painted the colors on my hair with a paintbrush or basting brush looking thing. He wrapped each little bundle of hair that he painted in foil. I had to wait awhile for the color to do its thing and my hair got really warm as it was getting colored. A man removed the foils and washed and conditioned my hair. He said that Doug does the best foils of the people in the salon because his are so tight that they don’t slip down while you’re cooking, but that then they’re hard to get out. He gave me a nice neck and scalp massage during the washing and it felt nice.

Then, Doug cut my hair. To me, it looked like he was cutting randomly, but to the guy who rinsed my hair, the method Doug was using was really interesting and they talked a lot about it. Apparently Doug is awesome and the other stylists like to watch him work to learn new things. That’s cool.

While Doug was coloring, cutting and blowing out my hair, we chatted a lot and I’ve come to the conclusion that while I thought he was cool before because he wears attractive clothes and is always smiling, he’s cool when you get to know him too. Thanks Doug for doing my hair and for generally being awesome!

Before the Sealing


Randy worked a half of a day, but I stayed home from work. I was glad I did. There was a lot to get done. I still had loose ends to tie up for the Ring Ceremony, plus I needed to get all of the laundry, dishes, cleaning, etc. done for the week because from here on out I knew it’d be too chaotic. We had the repairman for the internet coming that morning too. It was a busy day. Then, Randy came home and we played a little World of Warcraft together. When we logged in, the guild message of the day congratulated us. So Cute! I love my guidies. We got ready beginning around three o’clock and were fed, dressed, nail polished, makeuped, packed, etc by five. We had to be there at 5:45 p.m., so I wanted to leave at five, but mom showed up and got us all distracted. I was glad she did though, because while it made me stress about being late, without her we wouldn’t have gotten any before pics and it was nice to have her somehow involved in our sealing even if she couldn’t be there personally.

So close!

I ran around shopping today and got some of the things that we need for Tuesday and Saturday.I bought some makeup. I have no idea if what I bought is what I need, nor do I know how to apply it (haha), but I’ll ask Brother Christensen about it when he does my hair on Wednesday. He was supposed to do it today, but had to cancel because Sister Christensen came down ill. I’m glad he canceled to take care of the kids so she could get some rest. I also got nail polish! I still need a necklace, bracelet and earrings to wear. I picked up the flowers we needed and some filler for the vases. Still need to go get some green flower tape.

Randy says he’s excited that we’re getting married. That’s good. I know all of the preparations have been stressing him out because of the problems with his suit. We’ve got the suit thing sorta fixed. haha.

We still need to make a music playlist. This is going to be difficult. Randy’s music is loud and full of swear words and mine is country. Not very many people at the ring ceremony/wedding reception will want to listen to either of our music.


Mom came over and she liked my dress.

I finally got a veil. Still need flowers, tulle and drinks.

We have our marriage license.

Dad bought the pen for the guest book that Mom bought. He also picked up napkins.

Sister Katich and Sister Stodtmeister are kicking butt on decorations. Thanks ladies 🙂

The temple has us all set to be sealed by President Wadsworth. Word is he’s really good.

Have been trying to get in to see the Stake for over a week now. Cutting it a little close guys. lol.

Getting my hair looked over today by Brother Christensen.

Tomorrow Randy gets his Patriarchal Blessing.

Decorations and Cupcakes

It’s snowing too much for me to go take my lunch break, so I thought I’d blog instead…

Brother and Sister Katich have a lot of decorations from their daughter’s recent wedding reception and after church on Sunday Sister Katich asked me if I’d like to use them and her decorating services! Oh yes I would! She has gray table runners to go with my white table cloths. She also has tons of white tissue puff balls in all different sizes to be hung from the ceiling with fishing line. Her daughter did cupcakes too, so she also has a cupcake stand we can borrow that will make the cupcakes look like a wedding cake.

My mom is making the cupcakes and she’s doing a gluten-free mini cake to go on top of the cupcake tower. This way we have a place to put the cake topper and I can eat our wedding cake. Mom’s making several different flavors of cupcakes too so everyone gets to pick his/her fav and not be subjected to my gluten-freeness.

Dad said he saw a nice white pen to use with the guest book Mom got.

Mom’s coming over tonight after work to see my dress. She hasn’t seen it yet. We’ll see what she says about the cleavage issue. My dress covers my garments; my bra doesn’t show or anything, but it’s still a little too boob happy for me to be entirely comfortable with it. Randy says it looks good and to wear it. We’ll see what Mom says.

Randy’s scheduling our interviews with the Bishop and Stake President and we’re going to get our marriage license this weekend. The marriage license department is having special hours this weekend for New Year’s and because of that Randy and I will both be able to appear for the paperwork process without either of us having to take a day off. How cool is that?

Almost there… Yay!

We need your fake Christmas trees!

Christmas has come and gone, but if you’re like us your Christmas trees haven’t yet been shoved back in its box and schlepped out to the garage to wait until next year. Weather it’s still out because you’re waiting for the Wise Men to visit, or because you just haven’t gotten around to cleaning up Christmas, it’s a good thing that your tree isn’t put away yet, because we need to borrow it from you!

Our wedding reception theme is Winter Wonderland. We want to borrow your fake trees to build the scenery. Please call us and let us know if we can use your trees. We will pick up and drop off trees, making helping us out as easy on you as we possibly can.

Thanks in advance!

Still in the works…

Another update on the tying up of loose ends process that is our chaos right now :):

  • A guest book, white please. Thanks mom!
  • Pen for guest book, white.
  • Beads to go in the bottom of vases, also white please.
  • Mints/other white candy to go inside of our favor boxes. Gluten-free if possible. Thanks mom!
  • Tulle fabric for use as a garland, white.
  • Arch or other sort of backdrop.
  • Wedding photography services. Thanks Sister Katich!
  • Music services.
  • Hair and makeup services for Ashley. Thanks Brother Christensen!
  • Cupcakes, enough for the party with one batch gluten-free  (in lieu of wedding cake). Thanks mom!
  • Cupcake tower to display the cupcakes. Thanks mom!
  • Christmas trees (can we borrow your fake tree for the day?)
  • Dry cleaning– Ashley wants to clean the second-hand dress before the big day.
  • Dress alterations– the neckline is too low as-is. The skirt is full and made of tulle, the body is corseted. Ashley wants to add some white, gathered tulle to the top of the too low neckline. If you’ve seen Renaissance Fair dresses which have a corseted dress with a full skirt and a ruffle on the neckline… that’s what she’s going for.
  • Suit alterations– Randy’s suit top fits him, but the pants are too big and too long.

It’s almost here… OMG!

So, our big day is fast approaching and we’re not ready!!! Mom has really stepped up and helped us out with some of the things on our list including a guest book, cupcakes and a way to display the cupcakes. She’s also collecting contributions towards a romantic get-away for us in lieu of wedding presents. We already have most of the things couples receive as wedding presents, including dishes, silverware and small appliances. Combining our silverware collections has actually forced us to start a second silverware drawer since Randy’s possessions arrived from Texas this fall. But as bountiful we are in silverware, we’re as barren in the ability to procure ourselves a short stay at a local hotel and a couple’s massage that we think would make a nice honeymoon. Thanks mom for helping us plan our big day and for ensuring we have a little bit of away time together to start the next phase of our lives off together.

To help us on this home-stretch of Ring Ceremony and Wedding Reception planning, we’ve set up an RSVP service. If you’re planning to attend, please let us know. We don’t want to make too many or too few cupcakes! The RSVP address is:

Sister Clark emailed me back and let me know that she has received an amazing Christmas present from her hubby… a trip to Costa Rica!!  Good for her, not so good for us. We’re back to needing a pianist. Let me know if you or someone you know can help us out with that!

Time is really flying by. 🙂 It’s almost here… OMG!

Building… Again


Last night, the stake calendar people who received the ward building request by accident of a glitch in the form, emailed a rejection notice for me on the event with the words “this has been communicated to the scheduler” on the bottom. I knew a scheduling meeting had occurred last week. I was waiting to hear back from those who attended that meeting if I had received the room or not for our Ring Ceremony. I emailed back the guy from whom the denial email came asking if that meant that I couldn’t use the room. And then I started crying. I’m so frustrated with all of this.

I tearfully showed Randy the email and he decided to call back the stake scheduling guy to figure out what was going on. The man told Randy that the guy who sent the email who isn’t in charge of scheduling the room, told him that we had the room. I’m guessing then that they had the meeting and put us in the calendar. A call back to that effect instead of a cryptic denial letter would have been nice.

When Randy first joined the church, he started a blog where he and several coauthors could write about the experiences of moving from being an Evangelical Christian to being a Mormon Christian. All of the people he wrote the blog with were new converts like himself and he is the only active church member out of the group remaining. They’ve all gone inactive.

He’s had a lot of rough experiences, including this run around about getting married in the Temple and using the gym for our Ring Ceremony. With drama like this going on, it’s no wonder his friends haven’t stayed active in the church. There are other churches out there who will let us get married in a manner that will be more welcoming to our nonmember friends and families and who won’t make life hell for us as we try to schedule a simple Ring Ceremony.

I’m not going inactive, but this mess has definitely left me with the thought that church members can be quite hurtful to new converts and to each other and that we are to blame for our own poor new convert retention rate. Perhaps members wouldn’t be so prone to “church vacations,” as we jokingly call periods of inactivity, if we weren’t such jerks to each other.

So much drama

On Sunday, I still hadn’t heard back (like he promised) or got a hold of the ward building scheduler, so I decided to take matters into my own hands. I didn’t want to wait until the last minute and not have a room for our Ring Ceremony. I put notices on the gym doors that the gym would be in use on January 15th and to call me if they had any questions. No one had any questions, but the Stake President saw the notices. He was one of the people the glitched building scheduling online form emailed instead of emailing the correct person, so he has been in the loop since the beginning of how hard of a time I was having in scheduling this.

He got in touch with the stake building scheduler and told him to take down my notes and get my room scheduled. Now the stake is meeting with him and all of the ward schedulers to figure out why people are having such a hard time getting things scheduled. The stake scheduler called me to tell me how upset the Stake President was and that now there were going to be meetings. He told me he took down my signs. And that’s where the fun began.

The stake scheduler ended up being someone I knew from the ward I first lived in when my ex and I moved here from Arkansas. I sang in the choir with him and his family. His wife was my visiting teacher and when I was pregnant, she took me to prenatal appointments because she knew I couldn’t drive. That was much easier than taking the bus! But the relationship between his family and mine wasn’t all sunshine and roses.

My ex and I couldn’t make an assigned chapel cleaning day. We arranged for substitutes, but they didn’t show. The now-stake-scheduler-guy and the then-counselor-in-the-bishopric was upset about that. He and my ex had a quite irreverent argument in the chapel the following Sunday before church service in front of everyone.

This man was in the Bishopric with the Bishop who refused to allow me to go to the temple to receive my endowment. Church policy states that worthy women may attend the temple without their husbands if their husbands give permission. I was worthy, my then-husband wanted me to go. He said no. I disagreed with his judgment, making them all very uncomfortable.

So between not getting a long with my ex and between not understanding why I disagreed with the leadership of the Bishopric, this guy really didn’t get along with me and mine. I had no problem with him. I realize that my ex is really good at angering people and that even people in church leadership positions aren’t immune to losing their temper sometimes. I’ve since gone to the temple. I’m over any drama from that time in my life and from that ward. But I guess the stake scheduler isn’t over it. The entire conversation was at best uncomfortable and at worst rude.

I was polite. I said please and thank you. I didn’t push his buttons or bring up the past. I did the right thing.

Finally, we hung up the phone and I called Randy crying. That man hurt my feelings to the point of tears and it’s stressing me out trying to get the room scheduled. So, yah. What’s next in the building scheduling fiasco? Bring it! LOL. Ugh.